How often do you say kind words to yourself?
A couple of times a month? A week? A day? Speaking life and love into ourselves is not easy. I should know. I spent the majority of my life (until my mid-twenties) with pretty low self-esteem.
I told myself that I was ugly and that I wasn’t smart. Even though these things couldn’t be further from the truth.
One of the things that helped me was to tell myself more positive things. But you might be saying that you don’t know where to start.
That’s okay! I’m here to support you. Below I have 75 self-love affirmations (and some ways you can use these positive self-love affirmations) that will help boost your self-esteem.
Keep reading and be on the lookout to sign up for my self-love email course!
Why Should You Care About Self-Love?
First up, why should you care about self-love or even use these affirmations for self-love?
Well, self-love is incorporated into everything that you do. Seriously.
Didn’t ask for a raise at your job because you didn’t feel good enough? That’s a lack of self-love.
Didn’t say yes to a potential romantic partner because “they were too good to be true”. That’s a lack of self-love.
You deserve that raise. You deserve a romantic partner who adores the hell out of you. You deserve to have all the things that you want in life.
Once you accept that (and again it is NOT easy), your entire world opens up to even more possibilities.
So why should you cultivate self-love? So you can live your live with all the possibilities you deserve.
75 Self-Love Affirmations
- I am worthy of my own love.
- My light shines bright.
- My smile is radiant and lights up every room that I’m in.
- I can do anything that I set my mind to.
- I have accomplished so much in my life.
- My life is full of joy, abundance, and fun.
- I speak kindly to myself every day.
- I am in control of how I feel about myself.
- I am gentle with myself.
- I am an inspiration to myself and to others.
- How I look is only a small part of who I am.
- I enjoy my own company.
- I have everything I need within me.
- My abilities are only limited by my imagination.
- I am worthy.
- I radiate love.
- I am proud of all of my accomplishments.
- I do not place any judgments on myself.
- My heart is full of joy for the life that I live.
- I can get through all the storms of my life (inspired by a wonderful person in my FB group)
- I don’t have to compare myself to anyone else.
- I deserve happiness and success.
- Today, I am at peace with myself and my life.
- I love the person that I am and the person that I am becoming.
- I am in awe of how much I love myself.
- I create beautiful things.
- I don’t apologize for the things that make me happy.
- I wish myself happiness every day.
- My appearance doesn’t dictate how I feel about myself.
- I matter. Each and every day, I matter.
- I respect myself and what I am able and not able to do right now.
- I am allowed to brag about my accomplishments.
- No matter what I go through, I have the strength to overcome it.
- I am kind and compassionate to myself.
- I surround myself with positive people who love me for who I am.
- I am creative, resourceful, and whole.
- I don’t have to be anyone but myself.
- Love and hope lead me through life (another FB group inspiration)
- My journey is my own and that’s okay.
- I can turn my negative thoughts about myself to positive thoughts.
- I don’t need validation from others.
- I am in the driver’s seat of my life.
- I am good enough.
- I focus on the things about my life that I love
- I ignore everything that doesn’t enhance my life or my happiness.
- My peace is more important than being around people drain my energy.
- I make sure to be seen and heard.
- I can rise to meet any challenge.
- I can excel at everything that I do.
- I am grounded in my love for myself.
- I am in control of my actions.
- My heart is full of love that I have for myself.
- I do not need to be fixed.
- I feel pride in living my life on my terms.
- I make my own decisions.
- My life is full because I am in it.
- I see all of the beautiful things about myself.
- I am not my negative thoughts or emotions.
- I deserve all the happiness that is coming my way.
- I embrace my flaws.
- My confidence is increasing every day.
- I am exactly who I need to be right now.
- I do my best to grow every day.
- Today is a wonderful day to love me.
- I can cultivate self-love.
- I am empowered to create a life that I love.
- I am powerful.
- I am smart enough.
- I know I can create my own happiness.
- I take steps to please myself instead of trying to please others.
- I am amazed at myself for what I’ve overcome.
- I am beautiful.
- I believe in me.
- I start my day with love in my heart.
- The bottom line is, I sure can shine.
**Some of these may or may not have been inspired by A Star is Born from Disney’s Hercules. I can’t help it, I love that movie so much ? ? ***
How To Use These Self-Love Affirmations
So do self-love affirmations work? YES!
But, it depends on how you use them and how committed you are to not just saying the words, but actively doing things that will increase your self love.
Of course, you can just say these affirmations for self-love and self-acceptance a couple of times a day and leave it at that, but if you want to make them more powerful and the feelings long-lasting.
Write Them Down
One of the easiest ways to start using these positive self-love affirmations is to write them down. My favorite way to write down affirmations is in a journal. I have a couple of journals that I use, but I have a particular journal (that I call Briana’s Happiness Journal) that I write down all of my affirmations in.
Get yourself a journal that you can write down your positive affirmations for self-love in. Make it even more special by decorating it. I decorated mine with fortune cookie fortunes, things I cut out of magazines, and stuff I’ve found around my house.
Leave Yourself Love Notes
You know how parents leave their children notes in the lunch boxes? You should do the same for yourself. Take some of your favorite affirmations and write them down on sticky notes or just small pieces of paper.
Once you’re done, leave them around the house (or ask someone you live with to do it) for yourself to find later. Make sure to put them in not so obvious places. I guarantee that over time, you’ll forget you did it. But one day, you’ll come across one and love that you left a little piece of love for yourself.
Say Them in the Mirror
This one may make you a tad uncomfortable. Not many people look at themselves in the mirror and talk to themselves. And even when you did, you’re probably not showering yourself with praise.
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But you definitely SHOULD!
Take a few minutes and a few of these affirmations and say them to yourself while looking in the mirror.
Get an Affirmation App
There are a ton of apps that you can use to help you build a habit with saying your affirmations. I use the My Affirmations app (for Andriod) but there are similar ones that you can find for iPhones.
You can also check out these self-care apps. They often have affirmations built into them.
Take your favorite self-love affirmations or self-love words from the list and turn it into a creative project. Try creating a vision board or painting that you can look at every day to remind you to be kind to and love yourself.
So there you have it! Over 50 self-loving affirmations that you can use to boost your confidence and increase your self-esteem.
I hope that you enjoyed these self-love affirmations and that they inspire you to love yourself a little bit more today. Tell me your favorite affirmations for self-love and confidence in the comments.
Briana Hollis is a licensed social worker and self-care coach. She earned her Master of Science in Social Administration from Case Western Reserve University in 2014 and her Master of Education from Tiffin University in 2019. She has spent the last 5 years working in crisis intervention. Her passion for serving others is the heart of this site. She started Learning To Be Free to assist others in bringing freedom to their lives.
Briana is also the author of The Self-Care Journal for Young Adults.