No one is a silo. We are made up of all of the experiences of everyone that we know, whether or not we want it or realize it. This isn’t a bad thing! Self-discovery can be had with learning how we relate to others and how they related to us.
With that being said, there are certain people that you need in your life who will support you in your goals, dreams, generally bring in positivity, or teach you valuable life lessons. Some of these types of people may be the same person for you, you may not have this person at all, or you may not feel a need for one of these people (and that’s okay!). We don’t all have these people in our lives, but once you recognize it you can begin looking for people (where ever they might be!).
The Person Who Can You Can Be Silly and Laugh With
Having someone to laugh and be silly with is important. According to Dr. John Carlson laughter has the following benefits:
- reduces stress
- causes deep muscle relaxation
- promotes creativity
- conducive to learning
- and many more!
(If you need a laugh right now, check out one of my favorite videos by the Try Guys)
The Person Who Can Support You in Your Darkest Hour
It’s a fact of life that we’ll have times when we feel like we can’t go on: the death of a family member, going through a break-up, or dealing with suicidal ideation. We all need someone to turn to when we need to talk through our pain and remember how much we still have to live and to offer the world.
If you don’t have this person but still need support, please reach out to Crisis Text Line (text HOME to 741741 – US, 686868 – Canada, 85258) or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-873-8255).
If you’d like to BE that person for someone, check out this guide on helping a friend in crisis.
The Person Who Has Been in a Similar Personal Struggle
Sometimes we need to know that someone can understand what we’ve been through. Though we can ALL learn to be empathetic towards anyone in any situation, it’s nice to know and share with people who have been there.
If you’d like to find a therapist who can better understand you through a similarly shared background, check out this post.
The Person Who Can Dream Big (and Make You Dream!)
Do you ever get so bogged down by the details you never see the big picture?
Sometimes you need someone who can not only help you see the big
The Person Who Can Help You in Your Career
Your career is a huge piece of your life and you deserve to get what you want and need out of it. However, sometimes you don’t know where to start. Finding someone who has experiences that you’d like to have or has a career that you’d like to emulate can be a great stepping stone to having the career that you want. It can be difficult to find these people but not impossible.
My suggestion? FACEBOOK GROUPS! If you’re not in any FaceBook group related to your profession, you are absolutely missing out. While I haven’t find a true mentor yet (I’m still looking!), I have found a wealth of information and people who are doing what I’d like to do day in and day out.
The Person Who Can Focus on the Small Details
This is the opposite person of the person who can help you dream big. This person helps you focus on the small things that will help your dream succeed or the person that will help you focus on the little things in life, when the entirety of it seems tooo big.
The Person Who Can Radiate Positivity
Last one. The person who radiates positivity is someone you know you can go to when you need a boost. Funny memes, loving and insightful commentary and heart emojis are their gotos. They love you and they are happy that you
This person may not be positive
The Person Who Can Challenge Your Mindset
If you’re anything like me, sometimes you can be stuck in your own brain. All of the negative thoughts add up:
- I’m not smart enough
- I’m not talented enough
- There’s already hundreds number of people doing that
- It’s too much
My new motto is to JUST TRY. If it doesn’t work out, I pivot and try something else.
My life coach first got me thinking of this. She called it, “your personal board of directors”.
I’d love to hear your thoughts! What people do you think YOU personally need in your life? Are there any other people I should include?
Briana Hollis is a licensed social worker and self-care coach. She earned her Master of Science in Social Administration from Case Western Reserve University in 2014 and her Master of Education from Tiffin University in 2019. She has spent the last 5 years working in crisis intervention. Her passion for serving others is the heart of this site. She started Learning To Be Free to assist others in bringing freedom to their lives.
Briana is also the author of The Self-Care Journal for Young Adults.